Question: “Sital, how do I maintain momentum and just “keep going” with my job search when I’m faced with constant rejections, negativity and non-response…?”
1. Don’t take it personally
• Some people won’t reply to your emails.
• Some people won’t return your calls.
• Some firms won’t reply to your job application.
Don’t take it personally. Develop a thick skin. Keep building a pipeline of opportunities, a wider set of connections, and just move on. It’s their loss, not yours.
“Why compare yourself with others? No one in the entire world can do a better job of being you than you.”
‘Julie’s got a great job, look how well she has done for herself’
‘Sanjay is so smart. I wish I’d applied myself to my studies like he has’
‘Isabel has done really well for herself – just look at that great house and the holidays she goes on’
‘Marco and Tina have the perfect family life. I’m so jealous’
‘Brian’s so ballsy. Just look at how he reinvented himself and started that business of his’
‘Emma is so organised. I wish had the kind of work-life balance she’s achieved’
Comparing yourself to others is drilled into us from childhood and school. But it’s completely misplaced and irrelevant.
Here are 3 reasons why:
Something happens which stops you in your tracks:
• Major changes at work which make you think… “Is this what I really want?”
• A major health problem (for you or a family member)
• The death of a close friend or family member
• A divorce or major a relationship break-up
• Financial difficulties
• Extended travel or volunteering activities that make you question what you’re doing with your life
• External factors that move you (e.g. 9/11, the tsunami in Asia, earthquake in Haiti)
Tip: Remember, everything happens for a reason. Some of the worst things that happen to you will teach you the biggest lessons. Sounds very clichéd – but in years to come, you’ll know them to be true.